No one talks about having a sexless marriage. The closest I get is hearing other men joking about their wives not being interested in sex any more, but we were never really interested in sex, even when we met 25 years ago. I met Alison at a party and was smitten straight away. She was just a delight to be with and I loved her company and very quickly loved her.

So what do you do if you find yourself in a sexless marriage? Research indicates that testosterone has been falling steadily in men for decades so that could at least partially explain this trend. Without that knowledge, no solutions will present themselves. Try talking about what sex was like before, when things changed, and what was going on around that time. If they could change something, what would it be?

Physical intimacy is what makes a relationship more than just a platonic friendship. Some couples fall into a pattern or habit of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. While there is a "normal" drop off within the first few years of marriage, particularly if kids come into the picture, complete loss of this physical aspect of marriage often signals a marital problem that needs to be addressed. Without the physical intimacy that differentiates a romantic partnership from a platonic one, married couples can become more-or-less roommates.