Some people spend years hunting down a single formula for mastering oral sex that makes them the World Champion of Mouth Stuff every single time. But when it comes to oral sex, every partner — and, indeed, every time — is different. This makes a one-size-fits-all approach pretty ineffective. As with anything else related to sexually pleasuring a partner, the very best advice is to communicate with them before and during! What excites them? What atmosphere do they prefer?

When it comes to making a person with a vulva orgasm, most folks need more than plain old penetration. Your penis is great and all , but only a quarter of vulva owners routinely come during vaginal intercourse —which means a lot of people need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to climax. Packed with nerve endings, the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. It has around 8, nerve endings , which is double the number in a penis, FYI. So what can you do to give your partner a mind-blowing clitoral orgasm?

Yep, seriously! Did you know that a research study of 52, Americans found that receiving oral sex is by far the strongest predictor of how frequently women orgasm? Regardless if you are male, intersex or female, identify as non-binary, man or woman or girl or boy!